Friday, February 29, 2008

Oprah's top ten, revisited and annotated

I am enjoying your comments on the Oprah Shlumpadinka recap posts immensely, primarily because you have me thinking (which is a feat this week, let me tell you). Let's go back to Oprah's Ten Must-Haves and talk about how to make them work for you.

1. Trench coat.
Shauna said that she has been searching for a trench that doesn't make her look matronly. I understand that; the right trench is the perfect outerwear, but the wrong trench is a fashion disaster.

Look for a trench that flatters your shape -- double breasted works well for women who are curvy, while single-breasted is better for girls with flat chests or boyish hips. Check the length: a trench should hit above the knee, slightly shorter than the hemline of most of your skirts. If you have slim shoulders, look for a smaller collar -- a gigantic collar can overwhelm a small frame.

2. Black (or white) turtleneck.
Blackbird wants to see a different list: "I'd like Oprah to list how many of each of these garments she has." Oprah did admit that she does not currently own a black turtleneck, although I'm sure that the very MOMENT she said that an assistant scurried out to Neiman's and brought ten back. Don't you think?

I have mixed feelings about the black turtleneck as a wardrobe staple for EVERY woman. The turtleneck is NOT universally flattering, particularly in black; a crew or boatneck sweater is often a better choice. But I do agree with the idea that you need AT LEAST one sweater in a basic style and neutral color. Black is always useful, as are white and gray and brown. Choose a shade that flatters your skin and hair and works with virtually everything in your closet.

3. Black trousers.
No arguing with this. Choose a pair that fit and flatter your figure; choose a fabric that works for your lifestyle. Wash black cotton pants inside out in cold water and hang to dry, to preserve the color; replace when they start to fade.

4. Tunic.
Hairline Fracture described her tunic as a "babydoll top with a empire waistband." As with everything else, the trick is to find what fits; if the babydoll works for her, then yes, that can be the tunic stand-in. A tunic is a great way to dress up jeans or capris, and really is a staple worth having.

5. White jeans.
I'm going to defend the white jeans; they have a cool, Jackie O look that is timeless and elegant, and they are more versatile than white trousers. And no, white jeans (or white pants of ANY sort) are not the best choice around small children, but for moms whose kids are past the phase where they must CONSTANTLY touch you (it passes, I promise) or for women who are looking for an alternative to the jeans-and-tee routine, white jeans are a nice addition to your closet. Pair with black or bright colors; wear in the summer with a little cotton blouse and in the winter with a sweater.

I'm not sure that I would say they are a necessity, but they're a nice add-on.

6. Dark jeans.
You know how I feel about this: everyone needs AT LEAST one pair of mid-rise, dark-wash jeans. But Jill raised a good point about having ONE pair of jeans: "Okay, but with the one pair of jeans... the Oprah site says you can wear flats and then dress them up to go out with heels? Doesn't that violate everything you've been preaching about hemlines?"

Yes it does. And no you can't -- you need jeans hemmed for flats and jeans hemmed for heels, if you want to do both. Start by getting a pair to go with the shoes you wear the MOST OFTEN, and then add a pair in another length. DO NOT wear your long jeans with flats, or vice versa. I'm begging you.

7. Black dress.
Again, no argument. I would say, though, that you need more than one; you need a black dress for summer and one for winter, and you may also want to think about a day dress and an LBD for evening. The black dress for day should be machine washable, as this will make it more wearable; the one for summer should be lightweight (a sheath dress or sundress) while the winter version should be something more substantial (wool or wool blend).

8. White denim jacket.
I am torn about this. I like the idea of the white denim jacket, because it is the denim jacket but more sophisticated, but really, I'm kind of over the whole denim jacket thing. Put on a real jacket -- or, better yet, wear your trench coat!

9. Black skirt.
Also a no-brainer. No matter what you do all day, you need a good black skirt -- if only, as my mother says, so that you have something to wear to a funeral.

Seriously.

10. Timeless cashmere sweater.
Excuse me while I get my soap box out for a moment: you canNOT get good cashmere on the cheap. You can find moderately priced cashmere that is soft and well made and that will last for years, but low-end cashmere from places like Old Navy and Steve & Barry's is not worth the money. It will pill and wear and be itchy.

It's worth it to invest in ONE great cashmere sweater, in a neutral color -- or a color you LOVE and will wear all the time -- and a style that works with your current closet. I'm a big fan of the cashmere cardigan; wear it with a blouse or a tee or a turtleneck, with jeans and skirts and dresses. Cashmere is light weight and warm, which makes it perfect for travel. And really nice cashmere is soft and luxurious.

Cashmere is also surprisingly kid-friendly, primarily because you can -- and should -- hand wash it. Dry cleaning ruins the fibers. Hand washing cashmere is simple and inexpensive. I promise.

What wardrobe staples are we missing here? And what are the pieces that are staples in YOUR closet?

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Wednesday, February 27, 2008

Oprah's ten wardrobe staples

Oprah says that every woman needs the following ...

1. Trench coat.

2. Black (or white) turtleneck.

3. Black trousers.

4. Tunic.

5. White jeans.

6. Dark jeans.

7. Black dress.

8. White denim jacket.

9. Black skirt.

10. Timeless cashmere sweater.

Add fabulous flats and a great over-sized bag. In WHITE! Excellent.

How many of these do YOU own?

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Oprah Winfrey, get out of my head!

Someone (Pamela? maybe?) emailed me the other day with a heads up: Oprah was doing a makeover show where she got suburban moms to give up the sweatpants and get dressed.

I literally RAN to set my DVR. Because THANK YOU OPRAH!

(Also, if it will get me on Oprah, I may stop getting dressed every day. Honestly.)

Yesterday I finally got around to watching the show, which was titled Are you a Shlumpadinka? And today I canNOT get Oprah's voice out of my head.

Shlumpadinka. Say it with me now. Shlumpadinka.

The women on the show were fairly typical: they were moms who wore baggy sweats and Mom jeans and needed a hair cut and maybe a little mascara. But they were all SO thrilled to see the stylist show up at their door, which was fun.

Until the screaming got on my nerves.

Tips from Oprah's stylist:

1. Get ONE pair of jeans that FITS RIGHT, in a mid rise, dark wash. The pair he bought were $44.00 at J. C. Penny.

2. Keep everything one color, but NOT necessarily black. Khaki and white is good, and navy blue is another nice alternative.

3. No bulky elastic waists. Choose slim yoga pants instead. But pair them with ATHLETIC shoes, not the ballet flats we saw on the show. They're YOGA PANTS, people.

4. Replace a baggy sweatshirt with a little dress and leggings. Or with a long cardigan and leggings. Just keep the hem close to your knee, please.

5. Mix and match labels. Pair higher end pieces with discount pieces to keep costs down.

6. No more baggy sweats. EVER. The end.

My favorite part was that ALL of the women were in FLAT SHOES (mostly from the Gap) which is realistic and practical.

Tomorrow: Oprah's Ten Basic Pieces list.

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Tuesday, February 26, 2008

Tuesday links: Soccer moms unite! And dress better!


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Friday, February 22, 2008

How to wear vintage jewelry

Lo these many moons ago, the absolutely adorable Chilihead e-mailed to ask about vintage jewelry. And I read her e-mail and thought, oooh good question, and then completely forgot about it.

Until today, that is, when I was putting on my watch (vintage) and a bracelet that my friend Leslie gave me (not vintage)and I though there's a post in this ...

I love vintage jewelry. When my husband's grandmother died last summer, my MIL invited me to take a few pieces of her jewelry. I chose a brooch and matching earrings and a pearl tie (picture attached). I love the funkiness of the tie, but I have no idea what to wear it with! So my question is really a) will I look like a complete dork wearing it and b) if I won't look like a dork, what should I wear it with?

Finally, I have a number of vintage necklaces that I love. However, I don't wear them often because when I do my neck reacts with a very itchy rash. Is there anything I can treat the necklaces or my neck with to avoid the reaction?


Let's start with the tie.

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I have to be honest with you -- I am not a fan of the men's-tie-as-women's-accessory look. I am also not a fan of men in skirts*, though; I think that there are some looks that are really gender-specific and should stay that way.

Ties are great on the gentlemen, but not so much on the ladies. And a tie made of any sort of jewelry is a little too costume party for me. Sorry, Chili. I'm afraid I have to go with "look like a dork" on this one.

Are we still friends?

Chili also wants to know what to do about vintage pieces that make her itch. While I am NOT A DOCTOR (consider that the legal disclaimer) my extensive Googling leads me to think that Chili's reaction is contact dermatitis, and that she is allergic to something in the jewelry, possible nickel, which is often used in costume jewelry.

She has two choices: she can wear her necklaces with tops that keep them from touching her skin (a turtleneck, for example, or a collared shirt with the necklace under the collar) or she can treat her neck with an OTC .5 percent hydrocortisone cream before and after she wears them. If she chooses this, I would recommend that she do three things:

1. Wear the necklaces a couple of times WITHOUT pretreating her skin, to test how bad the reaction is and when it starts. If she gets itchy as soon as she puts the necklace on, then she definitely wants to wear a layer between it and her skin; if the rash doesn't come on until the next day, she can wear the necklace and then treat with hyrdrocortisone as soon as she takes it off.

2. Skip a day (or days) between wearings, to keep her skin from being constantly irritated. Contact dermatitis can easily turn into a yeast infection if it's not controlled, according to Dr. Google. (Please consult a REAL DOCTOR if you have questions.)

3. Clean her necklaces after each wearing to get the hydrocortisone cream off them. Target and WalMart carry inexpensive jewelry cleaner; dunk the necklace in, let it sit for fifteen seconds, rinse in cool water and you're done. HOWEVER -- test a small section to be sure that the cleaner won't cause the necklace to peel or stain, and don't EVER leave vintage or costume jewelry in the cleaner longer than necessary. I will drop my rings or earrings or whatever in the cleaner, brush my teeth, and then take them out. That's usually enough time to melt all the lotion that gets caught in my ring setting but not enough time to do any damage.

One last thing about wearing vintage: often women hesitate to wear vintage pieces because they think they should save them for a special occasion. If you've got great vintage jewelry, wear it! Pair vintage pieces with tees and jeans or with your work wear; mix it with newer pieces. I have a nice little collection of vintage watches which I wear every day; today, I'm wearing a 1960-something white gold Bulova with a faux diamond stretchy bracelet. Make your vintage pieces part of your look; it adds polish and interest without looking trendy.

*While I disapprove of men in skirts, I think a man in a kilt is dead sexy. Go figure.

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Tuesday, February 19, 2008

Tuesday links (and one from Saturday, too) plus a dress I love

What to wear with a three-quarter sleeve blazer.

I do men's fashion advice, too! But only if you ask nicely.

Part four of the Great Suit Up: Shooooooes! (And in case you missed them, parts one and two and three.)

When fashion goes wrong: cocktail shorts. Yes, really.

This week at Fashion Find, I give Gap another chance to make up for closing Forth & Towne (although I'm still mad about that).

And the dress:

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J. Crew Swiss-dot Fontana dress, $140.00. Bright berry or navy? Hmmm ...

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Monday, February 18, 2008

Wrap dress that flatters the hips and thighs

I have been on a search for a wrap dress for over a year. My problem spots are on the outside of my thighs and most wrap dresses are a jersey knit fabric that tend to fall directly onto my problem spots. I'm looking for a wrap dress (or any dress or skirt) that is a more structured A-line. Meaning it holds the A-shape instead of draping over my thighs! Are you aware of anywhere I can shop for that?

Sarah


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Gap shirt dress, $49.99

Sarah wants to look for dresses and skirts made from structured fabrics that won't cling to her hips and thighs. Wool and cotton blends are good, as are linen and silk (but not a silk jersey, obviously).

Sarah also wants to look for a dress with a distinctly A-line skirt, one that nips in at the waist and then flares out. For this reason, she might have more luck with a shirt dress than with a conventional wrap dress.

Fortunately for her, the shirt dress is EVERYWHERE this spring. J. Crew, Gap, and Old Navy all have shirt dresses in stock right now (the Old Navy dress is ON SALE for $25.00, even!). A shirt dress follows the same principles as the wrap dress: it creates an hourglass figure by pulling in at the waist. But unlike the conventional jersey wrap dress, it won't cling to hips and thighs.

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Friday, February 15, 2008

What to wear with skinny pants

I read with great interest your comments on proper length for blue jeans. I am about 3/4 of an inch too tall for most petite pants, which means the regulars are about 4 inches too long. I'm still not sure where to find jeans of the proper length, but I have a renewed commitment not to settle for ones that are too short (I usually rationalize that at least I won't have to worry about tripping!).

I have a related question about length for dress pants. I have two pairs of slacks that I purchased within the past four years, a salt and pepper tweed and plain black. Both pairs are straight legs with side vents. What are the rules for length? What sort of heel should I be wearing with them? Are people even wearing straight leg pants with side vents? I would really appreciate your guidance! For the record, I was wearing both of them with flats, but then those shoes bit the dust and I've not been wearing them much since they look a little odd with my two inch heels.

Thank you!

Heather


It's funny that Heather would ask this just now, because I feel lately like everywhere I go I am seeing women whose pants are the wrong length for their shoes. And it drives me batty for some reason. I have issues.

Fortunately, my issues are what enables me to do this job! So let's talk about pants length, and what the SHAPE of the pants has to do with how long they should be.

In general, the rule about pants and heels is this: your hem should fall about a quarter of an inch from the floor when you have your shoes on. With flats, your pants should break slightly over the top of your foot, but should NOT be so long that you are walking on them in the back. This is true for jeans and chinos and wool trousers and anything else you might wear.

Pants of any sort that are hemmed for flats can NOT be worn with heels. Ever. The ONE exception to this is cropped pants, which can be worn with flats OR heels, as long as the hem falls close to the ankle bone. Otherwise, you need to pick a hem length and live with it.

Heather says that the pants she is specifically concerned about have a "straight" leg. This can mean one of two things -- either they are the same width all the way up (neither tapered nor flared) OR they are what we call "skinny pants." If these are trousers that are the same width from the widest part (the hip, say) then the quarter-of-an-inch rule holds, and as long as they are hemmed properly, they can be worn with a heel.

But if they are skinny pants, with a truly STRAIGHT leg, then the rules are different. Skinny pants are best with a flat shoe -- yes, I know, you see celebrities wearing them with heels ALL THE TIME, and if you're a celebrity then have at it, and also hire me to be your stylist please! But for the rest of us mere mortals, pairing skinny pants with a high heel, even with the right hem length, usually just leads to ankles swathed in bunched up fabric. Not a good look.

Instead, pair your very slim or skinny pants with a ballet flat or something with a slightly rounded toe; this is one look that doesn't work with the pointy toed flat. As with longer pants, the hemline should break only slightly across the front of the foot.

In the end, I think that Heather needs to invest in some great new flats, either ballet flats or peep toes, to wear with these pants. And you have got to love any answer that ends with YOU MUST GO SHOE SHOPPING, right?

Right.

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Thursday, February 14, 2008

Gimme a smooch: Lip balm review

Happy Valentine's day! Are you feeling smoochable? I've had the WORST chapped lips this winter (I know that you really wanted to hear that) and I've been on a Quest to find the Best Lip Balm Ever. And since I've not been shopping for clothes or shoes or handbags, I have had plenty of time to obsess about carefully consider my skin care options. Starting with those chapped lips. And now I will share what I have learned! Consider this my Valentine's day gift to you.

You're welcome!

I'm a huge fan of products with SPF in them, for the whole body but especially for the face. I wear an SPF 40 sunscreen every single day (yes, really!) and I'm always on the lookout for lip balm with any sort of SPF. So of course Kiehl's Lip Balm SPF 15 seemed like a perfect solution, particularly since it comes untinted or with a hint of red or peach color.

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I hated it, from the moment I put it on. The consistency is very thin, to the point where it doesn't seem to be moisturizing my lips at all (which is the whole POINT of a lip balm, don't you think?) and it smells weird, kind of like Carmex (remember Carmex? in the white pot with the yellow lid? do they still make that?). I was hoping that this would be a balm that I could wear under a lip gloss, for the SPF and also to keep my poor chapped lips from cracking, but no. Save your $9.50 for something else.

Or! Spend your $9.50 on FOUR tubes of Aquaphor and STILL have money left over! When my kids were babies, we bought big tubs of Aquaphor and used it as diaper cream, because it was completely color and scent free, and left their little tushes protected and soft. I bought some recently for my son to use on HIS lips, because he licks them when he's nervous and they are always a mess, but he wanted Vaseline instead, so I would up with the cute little tube of Aquaphor. And you know what? It is the Best Lip Balm EVER.

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Aquaphor is completely colorless and odorless; it goes on nicely under lip gloss or lipstick (although because it's petroleum-based, your lipstick will probably not last as long as it would alone). It also makes a nice cuticle cream, for those of you with dry winter hands. Like me.

See? I test, you learn, it's all good. Happy Valentine's day -- stop at the drugstore and get some Aquaphor for extra kissable lips.

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Tuesday, February 12, 2008

Tuesday links: OMG, has it REALLY been a WEEK?

Hello! Did you miss me? I have no idea where this week has gone, but I'm back! Well, actually, I'm a whole bunch of other places, but I'm not dead! So that's good!

What I'm reading (because I'm NOT SHOPPING!)

The ultimate guide to buying a suit: Part One and Part Two. I feel a Part Three coming later this week.

Don't need a suit? How about a really great jacket?

And OF COURSE I have found some more cute things for you. You're welcome!

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Wednesday, February 06, 2008

Super Tuesday links (because we're ALL winners!)

I voted yesterday, because I live in a Super Tuesday state, and while I'm having a hard time getting excited about any of the candidates from EITHER party, I do think it's time for a change. Maybe we can start by changing our style, yes? Yes.

Let's talk about your hair. Or mine! Whatever.

I fell off the no-shopping wagon. Want to see what I bought?

I didn't buy ANY of these things, although YOU can!

The bad economy is heralding the return of conservative dressing (seriously).

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